In a recent public post about his involvement in his campaign against Universal Medicine, Lance Martin attempts to paint himself as a fine upstanding citizen, a family loving man only wishing to arrest a harmful organisation. He keeps up his self-deception of being a victim of his wife’s involvement in Universal Medicine and seeks sympathy for how terribly he has been painted by those who do not know him.
However, what lies underneath this image and latest plea for sympathy and understanding is far removed from the image that Lance Martin is so at pains to portray. What emerges when we look at Lance Martin’s behaviour, when we examine his underlying motives and obsessions is deeply disturbing. In this article we expose what lies underneath this image.
Lance Martin’s conduct over the past two years online and off speaks for itself. We only need to consider his false accusations against Serge Benhayon to get a measure of the man – he accuses Serge Benhayon of: paedophilia; a corrupt relationship with his wife and ex-wife; manipulating his wife into a relationship with him; sexual grooming of young girls (current and past); an indecent interest in ‘young girls’ or ‘pre-pubescent, barely out of primary school girls’; money laundering; tax fraud; and appears to have supported Esther Rockett’s own false suggestions that Serge Benhayon had sexually abused both of his daughters. This long tirade of abuse, viewed in total is simply ridiculous. It would be laughable if it were not so disturbing that someone could concoct such elaborate and extensive fictions about people he knows little about and apparently convince himself that they are true.
What is truly disturbing is Lance Martin’s approach to his marital problems and this exposes his own self-delusion of the fine upstanding family man. His own wife has spilled the beans on the true character of the man. Does Lance Martin really believe that public attacks upon his wife through Esther Rockett’s blogs – where he paints her as a brainwashed woman who is lying to herself about the truth – would bring reconciliation in the marriage? Is that the actions of a man who is, as he attempts to present, someone willing to work through his marital problems? His missive that his wife was ‘unwilling to discuss her reasons for abandoning the marriage’ is simply not true – the fact that Lance Martin did not wish to listen to his wife or work on the relationship is lost upon him. It is interesting that he accuses her of conveniently lying to herself, when it is he who cannot lift the blinkers on a marriage that was unstable long before his wife’s involvement with Universal Medicine. The strangeness of his own behaviour appears to elude his own awareness – you do not seek reconciliation with an estranged wife through a campaign to publicly humiliate her online. And you do not seek solace on a twice-convicted felon’s forum to save your marriage either. It is unsurprising to some that someone with such an apparently tenuous relationship with honesty and truthfulness and the ability to spin lies that appear to become his own version of reality might have difficulties sustaining long-term relationships.
Lance Martin appears to have an obsession with all things sexual – obsessive accusations of sexual impropriety are a running theme in his allegations against Serge Benhayon and he found willing supporters of his lurid imagination in Esther Rockett and Robert Macindoe.
In what could be labelled as simply bizarre (if such allegations were not so alarming) Esther Rockett and Lance Martin regularly refer to ‘young girls’ and ‘teenage girls’ staying in Serge’s home unaccompanied, alongside ridiculous suggestions that ‘cult’ parents are lining up for their young daughters to be able to stay in Serge’s home.
These claims carry with them various allusions to sexual grooming and follow with cries from Esther Rockett to Serge Benhayon and the Universal Medicine student body of, ‘Why don’t’ you answer my questions?’ More recently Esther has begun referring to these girls as ‘little girls’ considering perhaps that the idea of ‘little girls’ staying in Serge’s home has more shock value than ‘teenage girls’.
It is characteristic of both Lance Martin and Esther Rockett that unsatisfied with the shock value in their disgusting allegations they appear to be driven to make up more and more lurid accusations.
In a recent post as Esther Rockett Health Care Activist, Rockett, no longer satisfied with reproducing Lance Martin’s offensive and false claims about Serge and Miranda Benhayon’s relationship has now set her sights on the marriage of Michael and Emmalee Benhayon suggesting that there was something inappropriate in Emmalee knowing that the relationship she had chosen with Michael was committed, stable and loving felt that it was appropriate to move in with Michael to further develop this relationship.
It is not actually spelt out what exactly is inappropriate or offensive in an almost 17 year old making a choice to move in with her partner as well as living closer to her place of work, other than that Esther seems to have an issue with a young women being mature enough and wise enough to make these choices about the future of her personal and professional life.
However, like all the material presented by both Lance Martin and Esther Rockett, the piece is replete with the usual unsubstantiated innuendo and what IS inappropriate and offensive is the attempts to tarnish in the readers minds an innocent situation and what is a strong and loving relationship of a young married couple Esther has never met and knows IN FACT little about.
With respect to Lance Martin’s and Esther Rockett’s other allegations about ‘young girls’ staying at the Benhayon home; the truth is it is no secret that teenage girls from interstate and abroad stay at the Benhayon home from time to time, often to do work experience at the Universal Medicine Clinic or to attend courses. The fact is Serge has always shared his financial success with others. His private charitable work will be the subject of much study one day. And a small part of his yet to be known private charitable work is helping the youth as much as he helps the many families, professionals and adults. Of course, like much of what Serge does, it can appear as simply too good to be true, so because we are unaccustomed to such actions by ordinary people it can appear unbelievable for the general observer. One need only look at the facts without any jealousy to see the extensive extraordinary done so ordinarily.
Serge is on record many times over in advocating that we must give back true quality and true opportunity to our youth. And he has backed that up with his time and his money for over 25 years. Serge has never cared what it looks like from the outside looking in or what others say. He simply does all that he does and he does it very, very well. As he has stated – “helping our youth is a much-needed factor. Truly helping them requires real commitment and one’s personal success to provide very real inspiration”.
It is deeply troubling that something so innocent and something presented to only enhance and develop the young people concerned would be so maligned.
The question we have to ask about teenagers staying at the Benhayon household is – So what?
Putting aside the obvious fact that in most people’s minds there is nothing inappropriate about teenagers staying at the home of family friends, another pertinent fact that seems to be lost on Esther Rockett and Lance Martin is that the Benhayon household is full of young people with Serge’s two sons and their wives currently living there and it was not so long ago that Serge Benhayon’s sons and their girlfriends were teenagers themselves.
This begs the question what exactly is inappropriate about young people staying in the home of other young people? This situation occurs all the time in homes all over Australia without people crying ‘sexual grooming’ and ‘paedophilia’. The truth is the Benhayon family have always had an open house policy and many friends stay in their home of various ages and both genders. The Universal Medicine student body are no doubt surprised to hear that they are apparently lining up to send their ‘young daughters’ or ‘little girls’ to stay in Serge’s house. The overarching sexual innuendo that has been implied by Lance Martin and Esther Rockett to the true situation is ridiculous and says much about the minds of those casting such aspersions.
It appears that from Lance Martin’s point of view and perpetuated by Esther Rockett on her blogs, the mere presence of girls anywhere near Serge Benhayon implies sexual impropriety and grooming behaviour despite there being absolutely no evidence to support such a view.
Lance Martin’s Sexual Obsessions and Transference
Indeed, it is possible to consider that Lance Martin’s allegations are more to do with his inner conflicts and turmoil than that of the object of his hate and jealousy.
It is a well known psychological weakness to transfer onto others one’s own secret desires and troubles, this is commonly called ‘transference’. It has a number of ways of working, but in this case we might assume – in circumstances where there are no facts at all that suggest any impropriety on the part of Serge Benhayon that –
Lance Martin’s predilections for all things sexual paint a disturbing picture of a man who wishes to paint himself as an honest family man and highlights the marked difference between his own self concept and the reality of his psychological profile. The two simply do not match up.
In his apparent obsession about all things of a sexual nature in relationship to Serge Benhayon, Lance Martin has reported that he has spoken to women who allege that Serge Benhayon has offered vaginal examinations. These claims are repeated in the “Press kit” that Lance Martin co authored with Esther Rockett that the two distributed to government departments and employers of Universal Medicine students and anyone who would listen to them.
Esther Rockett repeats these claims in her blogs. Notably, none of the alleged women it seems have ever approached authorities. One wonders why, if these women actually exist or if the claims were true, they would choose to divulge this information only to Lance Martin?
Indeed, Lance Martin is an unlikely candidate for women to confide such intimate and personal details. From his ex-wife’s own account we see a man who apparently likes to dominate and control women, this is not someone who is a likely confidant of an abused woman. Like other assertions, it is not just the content of the false assertions that is preposterous, but the fact that Lance Martin would think that anyone would believe that women would confide in him about such matters.
Is it not strange that the hundreds of women who regularly attend Universal Medicine events and have had sessions with Serge Benhayon have never had such experiences? Perhaps Esther Rockett and Lance Martin consider that all these women have been brainwashed to forget, or some other such rubbish, notwithstanding that it is impossible to brainwash anyone.
For the record Serge Benhayon has never performed or offered to perform a vaginal examination, and like Esther’s Rockett’s alleged ‘ovarian reading’, such events never happened, not ever.
Lance Martin has made up and widely distributed a completely false story using numerous nasty remarks and veiled innuendos (that cannot be mistaken as to their intended meaning) to attempt to cast a pall over Serge Benhayon’s relationship with his current wife, Miranda Benhayon.
It is in this context that Lance Martin’s lurid obsessions become most apparent. He accuses Serge Benhayon of sexually grooming Miranda as a young teenager with Serge’s first wife’s complicity. It is to this lurid fiction that Lance Martin returns again and again. Like a dog with a bone Lance Martin chews over and over his bizarre and disturbing obsession with Serge Benhayon.
Lance Martin obsesses over Serge Benhayon having known his wife Miranda Benhayon since she was a teenager. Lance Martin creates a sordid and false portrayal of events that ignores the fact that the extremely close and strong relationship between Serge and Miranda Benhayon did not commence until Miranda was in her twenties, and well after Serge Benhayon had separated from his first wife Deborah Benhayon.
It is to be noted that the relationship between Miranda Benhayon and Serge Benhayon remains robust and can be seen by those that are close to the family, as well as anyone who cared to observe closely, as a healthy and vibrant partnership of equals, a true relationship that inspires many to ask what it is that is the secret to the obvious enduring joy that the couple share.
This is not a relationship that could have started, as Lance Martin has tried to make others believe, upon a sexually abusive foundation.
Lance Martin makes much from unsupported innuendoes, suggesting that he has evidence when none in fact exists. From this disgusting suggestion that Miranda was ‘home skooled’, with an obvious sexual inference:
“Oh, she was home skooled alright. And that is why Serge needs to stay away from kids.
He hasn’t got a certificate, and won’t get one under the new system. Ergo, kids should not attend his workshops, clinic, events, or stay at his home or houses.”
To consistent references to ‘young girls’ and inferences about sexual misconduct:
‘And youth… What the hell does that mean? I think it means young girls. As in the ones that have been cult inducted at Natalie little shows, and brought in by their star-struck mums as sacrificial lambs to the altar of Serge.’
‘He’s clearly a liar, got a strange interest in young girls and has some other skeletons ratting around in his closets’
‘she [referring to a member of the student body] knows Serge initiated a relationship with Miranda when she was in her formative years, that is not a problem at all? Invite the kids over. Quick!!’
‘That should be illegal and any parent taking impressionable children should be reported to FaCs (but not the Lismore branch, a hot bed of culties who remarkably can’t figure out that their exalted leader has an unusual preoccupation with pedophilia and see nothing suss in the miraculous materialization of young wife replete with an unbelievable back story)’
‘[Serge] spends a lot of time talking about paedophilia and under age sex while married to a girl he met who had just left primary school.’
And in this rant, where he parodies Serge Benhayon, the malicious suggestions are obvious:
“ Don’t you want to be like me? i know how to make love, and have full body orgasms [with my young wife I met when she was 13- nudge nudge].”
The malicious innuendoes are obvious in Lance Martin’s blog posts, although generally, the short nasty attacks that are captured in Robert Macindoe’s posts are not Lance Martin’s style, he rather prefers to manipulate the reader with carefully placed inferences and suggestions that prompt the reader towards what he wants them to believe.
Lance Martin appears desperate for others to believe what appear to be his own sordid fantasies. In this following passage he publicly discusses a conversation that he said occurred between himself and his now ex-wife Anna Douglass. Lance Martin in effect accuses his wife of lying to herself for not accepting the disgusting lies he was spinning about Serge Benhayon and his relationship with Miranda. The relationship between Woody Allen and his relationship with the much younger Soon-Yi Previn is used to bring in a particular slant to his preposterous allegations:
‘I am told I am a ‘liar’ for suggesting there is something not right with Serge’s relationship with Miranda, which more or less mirrors Woody’s with Soon-Yi. Ah life- as soon as it’s convenient to lie to ourselves, we do it with gusto. She ‘knows’ Miranda, therefore it isn’t true because, I guess, Miranda has some story she tells to euphemize the real events. And I am loveless.
Problem is, I know where everyone was right through that period, and it certainly tells a different story to the one that they’re readily accepting from Serge and his captive wife. I’ve also spoken to plenty of people that confirm that there was something going on with the pair in the mid to late nineties. Bloody facts. They just get in the way of a good story don’t they? ” Serge, please tell me a story that will make me believe your fantasy so I can live in my dream world and abuse anyone around me who tries to tell me the truth….ahhh that’s better”
The analogy that Lance Martin makes between Serge Benhayon and Miranda Benhayon to Woody Allen and Soon-Yi Previn is preposterous. But he intends to play upon the fears and attributions we commonly hold.
Woody Allen made headlines in 1992 when at the age of 56 it was revealed he was in a relationship with 21 year old Soon-Yi Previn, the adopted daughter of Mia Farrow (Allen’s previous partner of 10 years). The relationship between Allen and Previn began when Previn was 20 (after the end of Allen’s and Farrow’s relationship) and they married in 1997 and have now been married for 18 years. The furore of the press (and the public outcry in response to the press furore) in 1992 can be attributed to how we look at age differences in relationships in addition to the obvious concern about Soon-yi being Allen’s ‘step-daughter’ in the context of the family arrangements. However, whatever concerns were raised about Woody Allen, they simply do not apply to Serge Benhayon and Miranda Benhayon. There is no 35 years age difference, indeed the 17 year age difference between Serge Benhayon and Miranda Benhayon is hardly controversial.
The relationship began when Miranda was 24 and those who know Miranda Benhayon understand that this is a woman who very much knows her own mind and would not be pushed into anything that she did not choose. Indeed in law, and in society generally, there is no issue with a 24 year old women commencing a relationship with an adult partner of her choice.
There is a strong social taboo on relationships between family members, which is what is brought to the fore in the Woody Allen/Soon-Yi relationship. In the case of Miranda and Serge Benhayon there was no father/daughter relationship – Serge Benhayon had been Miranda’s tennis coach whilst she was in High School. Miranda Benhayon has a very strong and close relationship with her father; a father who set-up and fully supported Miranda’s up bringing, her schooling and her successful tennis career. Quite simply there is no scandal and to make an analogy between the two situations is preposterous. But outlandish and disgraceful is the name of the game for Lance Martin.
It should also be noted that Lance’s claims that he has ‘spoken to plenty of people that confirm that there was something going on with the pair in the mid to late nineties’ cannot be reconciled with the fact that throughout the nineties Serge Benhayon was a popular tennis coach for many local families. If it were the case that there are ‘plenty of people’ who can confirm that there was something untoward occurring why on earth did people keep sending their children to be coached by Serge Benhayon? Even his former boss Steve Rigby President of the Alstonville tennis club, has been quoted to a journalist as saying of Serge, ‘He was a terrific coach and a really good businessman.’ While Lance may have been able to convince some locals into accepting his sordid tale, simple facts simply do not support this narrative.
There is also something deeply disturbing in Lance Martin’s commentary, particularly his comment:
‘Serge, please tell me a story that will make me believe your fantasy so I can live in my dream world and abuse anyone around me who tries to tell me the truth.’
This comment is revealing – what is Lance Martin’s ‘dream world’? It appears to be one where he can manipulate and control and where he can abuse – this is the picture that emerged from his own wife’s description of his conduct – and this comment appears to be an unconscious revealing of his darkest desires.
Lance Martin has also woven Deborah Benhayon into his lurid sexual fantasies. He has made up a crazy story that Deborah allowed Serge Benhayon to develop a sexual relationship with the teenage Miranda and does not speak up about the relationship with Miranda because she has engaged in tax evasion, money laundering and other improprieties. Lance Martin has alluded to Deborah Benhayon being complicit in his own fantasised version of facts:
‘It’s not hard to get the true Miranda story. There are more than a handful of people living in the area who knew Serge/Miranda and the family in that era. And all their stories concur- Serge had an interest, other than tennis, in Miranda, from the mid-nineties. Deborah was singing a different tune then. These people don’t really know each other. Deborah has been part of the lie now for so long, how would it look if she changed her tune? There is an investment in their fabrications greater than just the money that is being made. Deborah’s made it, Miranda’s made it, and now the members are making it. … They’ve all become combatants for his big ugly lies. There’s the lies about who Serge was. Then there’s the lies about what Serge says he is and what he knows. It’s lies all the way to the bank and happy pills for the members as petty payment for services rendered.’
‘ He’s managed to keep her[Deborah Benhayon] in through the lies, and make her a part of them going right back to his Evergreen Tennis days and before. This is where his power is- turning mountain sized lies and wrongdoings into a shared delusion- and she is a demonstration of that, along with Miranda, and perhaps the kids……’
‘I’d like to think Deborah, or Miranda would come clean, But I fear they are too far in. They’ve had to lie to themselves for far too long to justify their lives. They are way too invested, However, perhaps under pressure the truth will emerge. We’ll know in due course.’
‘The evil-genuis of Serge is a man who has worked out how to control people around him for his own purposes and who has now made a production line of it. His ex-wife, who hangs in there having been through all his BS during the 90’s; the bad businesses, the dodgy dealings, the deceits, the bankruptcy, the people that are still out there wanting their money back, the recruitment of his young charge who morphed into his wife having never left his side all these years and splitting his family apart ( and not as pleasantly and with as much integrity (ahem) as portrayed right Serge) – His kids are lock step in his madness dutifully unpacking the UM private plated vehicles for each event with 1000 yard stares and sheepish dumb grins. They all get together to collect the mountains of cash rolling in and sell the chintzy mislabeled merchandise. They are a little club glued together either by a shared delusion or a shared complicity or both; all under Serge’s control of ‘choice’. Where is the choice there I wonder?’
As a starting point what does it say about Lance Martin’s understanding of people to consider that a woman would stand by and allow what he suggests to occur? It is Lance Martin’s view of human behaviour that is so truly disturbing. That he can imagine that someone would stand by and allow the atrocities he has described says much more perhaps about the hurts he has endured from others that he is perhaps unable to deal with. To say this about Deborah Benhayon is simply ridiculous – to all those who know her as a strong and determined woman who would never stand by and allow such atrocities to occur. Perhaps it is Lance who was so let down by others in the past that he has to project his disappointments in others onto those he really does not know. What is more, Deborah Benhayon is a successful businesswoman in her own right – happily married and running her own business with an extensive client portfolio, she has no need to be a ‘hanger-on’ as Lance Martin suggests.
Is it possible, that despite Lance Martin’s maligned view, Deborah Benhayon has a much greater capacity with human relationships than Lance, in his limited and sad perspective, can hope to understand? That she has continued her involvement with Serge Benhayon attests the strength of the bond that the two share.
What is sad is that in Lance Martin’s conventional thinking he cannot conceive of a divorced couple having an amicable and loving relationship with the person that they have spent many years with and raised a family with. What Lance Martin appears unable to consider is that a relationship may change; yet the inter-relationship of the parties need not. This appears to be beyond Lance Martin’s limited capacity in relationships.
Lance Martin alleges that Deborah Benhayon would not be around if she did not have skeletons in the closet or had not been somehow indoctrinated by Serge Benhayon. Which story Lance is spinning obviously depends on which day of the week it is and his mood. If the facts were as Lance Martin portrayed it is unlikely that Deborah Benhayon, Serge Benhayon and Miranda Benhayon would have such an enduring and healthy friendship.
Indeed the story Lance Martin portrays here is as if he took a script from a daytime soap opera – the women he portrays could be no more than the cardboard cut-outs in Days of Ours Lives who can live a life with a manufactured friendship masking their true feelings. This is so far from the truth of these two women and the sincere and genuine friendship they obviously share to anyone who knows them. The portrayal by Lance Martin would be laughable if it had not been disseminated with such loathing and contempt and did not reveal such a deeply disturbed and troubled man.
We have seen Lance Martin’s misogynism evident in his portrayal of his own wife as weak, vulnerable, brainwashed and unable to think for herself, in order to suit his narrative of losing her to a cult. We see again Lance Martin’s archaic and disturbing view of women in his portrayal of Miranda Benhayon as weak and vulnerable and Deborah Benhayon as so controlled that she will hide any dirty secret. The truth is that the allegations made by Lance Martin, Esther Rockett and Robert Macindoe would lead anyone to withdraw from the company of Serge Benhayon, if they were true, yet this has not happened. Why do you think that is? It is certainly not because of ‘brainwashing’ – that is a fiction – is it perhaps because Serge Benhayon lives with such transparency that those who know the man have no doubt as to the truth? What is more anyone who actually knows Miranda and Deborah Benhayon know them to be two very strong women who would not stand for abuse. That Esther Rockett has never met either women, yet has no qualms in perpetrating Lance Martin’s views of them on her blogs, confirms once again a common trait of the cyber-bully of having no concern for the consequences of the stories they tell.
To make up stories about people they have never met, to suggest such preposterous lies that are intended to gravely impact upon those concerned, what does it say about the perpetrators?
It says more about them than the lies they have repeated and repeated!
False allegations of sexual impropriety, with such strong emotional overtones, must be considered to be the last bastion of the scoundrel. It is the work of criminals and cowards, who seek to exert control and gain recognition.
For many years Lance Martin received sessions from Serge Benhayon and never raised any concerns about his wife’s participation at Universal Medicine Workshops and events. He certainly never raised concerns about Serge Benhayon’s relationship with his wife, Miranda Benhayon. Is it not odd then that what Lance Martin now insists was a repugnant relationship between Serge and Miranda Benhayon was of no concern to him prior to his own marriage’s demise?
Lance Martin also claims that Serge Benhayon endlessly speaks of paedophilia and murder in his writing and presentations as evidence that Serge Benhayon has an obsession with these topics. Of course the false cult narrative supports that cult leaders apparently have such predilections. The fact that the term paedophilia barely rates a mention in Serge’s published books is conveniently ignored. Not to mention that the hundreds of hours of audio recording of Serge Benhayon’s presentations over the years evidence that these terms are not a regular feature of Serge’s presentations and have only ever been used where relevant to make a point. And when Serge Benhayon does make the point of this most vile act, he has described paedophilia as being more harming and more deplorable than any other person has historically given this subject its due expose.
It is beyond Lance Martin’s intellectual capacity to understand such levels of human care and decency. His own comments give us all a great insight into his deeply entrenched distresses.
It is a common psychological effect that we find what we are looking for – like wanting to buy a yellow car, you will see yellow cars everywhere. It is called ‘confirmation bias’ – an unconscious perceptual bias that acts like a filter so you see reality in a way that matches your expectations. You want to be right about how you see the world, so you seek out information that confirms your beliefs and avoid anything that contradicts those beliefs. It is a problem when confirmation bias distorts your active pursuit of facts.
It is perhaps Lance Martin’s own sexual obsessions and predilections that are revealed by his assertions of sexual material that are of only minor importance in Serge Benhayon’s work. He attributes greater weight to some material than is actually a reality, but such are the sexual obsessions of a cyber-bully.
Pertinently here it should be noted that Lance Martin is of the belief that:
‘We should also learn the basic rule that what people talk about can ONLY be what is inside their heads’
He has stated this and similar in various comments on Esther Rockett’s blogs and on the Rick Ross forum. As we have asked: is Lance Martin pointing to his own transference of his secret impulses and desires onto Serge Benhayon?
From Lance Martin’s own statement, it is valid to ask the disturbing question: what is in fact going on inside the head of Lance Martin when he is looking at or is near teenage girls and what is behind this sexual obsession that has been so maliciously projected onto Serge Benhayon?